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  1. KathrinS
    5 September, 2017 @ 20:45

    This sounds like a nightmare! I once dated someone with depression for a short while, and he told me about it after we broke up (for different reasons). He was so surprised I still wanted to be friends with him – but I didn’t see why I wouldn’t, I mean he was still the same person.
    I don’t have depression – but it’s interesting because I think a lot of people experience these feelings to a certain degree. For example, I’m more introverted, and at social gatherings I love to go to the bathroom and take a few minutes to calm down and center myself. And we all put on a mask to a certain degree. It’s hard to let people in and to tell them how we truly feel, for sure!!!

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    • Joanna Maguire
      10 September, 2017 @ 10:35

      Nightmare is a good word for it! Sometimes I deal with it okay, other times it is harder. I agree with you, I think we all wear a mask in some shape or form, I wonder how much better things would be if people were more honest with each other.
      Introverts & hanging out in bathrooms certainly does seem common – perhaps we should set up a group haha.
      I love what you say about your ex still being the same person, I have seen the opposite reaction too many times so I really do like those words.

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      • KathrinS
        10 September, 2017 @ 15:34

        Haha – but if we set up a group we wouldn’t be alone in the bathroom anymore! Which really is the whole point … But it would be nice to share experiences.
        That’s so sad. I get that some people have a narrow definition of the kinds of people they want to be friends with, but I don’t understand it. We grow so much more from people who are different to us. Sad, happy, male female, old, young, different nationalities, college educated or not … Isn’t it interesting to have a mix of everything in your group of friends?

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        • Joanna Maguire
          12 September, 2017 @ 20:41

          Hmmm…true…you have a point there. Maybe we could have a no bathroom interaction rule?
          I agree it is sad how some people avoid certain types of people and 100% agree that the mix of friendships is what makes life interesting. One of the things I enjoy about blogging and Instagram is all the different types of people I come into contact with who I would probably never encounter in my ‘real’ normal life.

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          • KathrinS
            12 September, 2017 @ 20:49

            Yes that’s true about blogging – I’ve had views from many different countries, where I’ve never even been!!

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            • Joanna Maguire
              12 September, 2017 @ 20:57

              Me too!
              Managed to unfollow your blog by accident just now, made sure to follow again straight away as I am loving your experiences.

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              • KathrinS
                12 September, 2017 @ 21:02

                Thanks! I like your posts, too!

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  2. Sim Carroll
    7 September, 2017 @ 20:46

    That’s me to a tee!!! ….and I love the words of the first Lady who commented

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    • Joanna Maguire
      10 September, 2017 @ 10:37

      I’m starting to discover there are a fair few of us out there Simone.
      Kathrin does indeed say some lovely things x

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  3. updownflight
    7 September, 2017 @ 21:55

    I was talking about almost exactly this topic with my sister yesterday.

    I hide so much from most people except my husband. When people see me I look just fine. Even my sister yesterday kept telling me I seem just fine even though I’ve been having emergency appointments with my psychiatrist for mania.

    My moods are fluctuating a lot since my medications have been increased. Some moments I can’t even explain how I feel, but I know sometimes I feel unwell. Writing posts has been difficult for me. I can only really write comments like this with any ease.

    On a similar, yet slightly different topic, I once wrote a post about “Feigning wellness”. Sometimes I even fool myself into thinking I’m fine when I’m really not. I sometimes do this because I so much want to be fine. That really makes mood charting unreliable.

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    • Joanna Maguire
      10 September, 2017 @ 10:41

      I’m not sure what is more difficult sometimes – the hiding or being truthful. Both are so exhausting.
      I did wonder if things were going a little tough for you at the moment, kinda felt an undercurrent of it in what you were writing. I hope that you are getting the help you need and you are able to be honest with those you need to help you. I think I have said before but I shall say again – a friendly ear is always here for you x

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      • updownflight
        10 September, 2017 @ 11:45

        I really appreciate that, Joanna

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  4. Bia
    10 September, 2017 @ 21:11

    This is very confusing for me, because I always struggle between choosing to hide or to say the truth. It still makes me very frustrated when someone asks if everything is ok and I answer that I’m just sleepy. And then get angry when they just assume that yeah, I must be sleepy, even though they have no way to know how I’m really feeling if I don’t tell them. Hahahaha It’s hard.
    But I do think it’s a matter of practice
    And that we always should share these things with close friends/family, the ones who really matter (even if it is really hard)

    Hope you are feeling ok!

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    • Joanna Maguire
      12 September, 2017 @ 20:45

      I do exactly the same! Tell people I am okay (and get annoyed with myself for saying that) and then get bothered that they haven’t realised it is all a pretence. Hard is strong enough a word I think!
      I think I have spent so much of my life listening to everyone else’s problems and being there for them that I have forgotten how to ask or tell people when I need help. I definitely need to practice!
      I am coping okay at the moment – thank you so much for asking!

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  5. Brendan
    21 September, 2017 @ 11:38

    Appearances can be deceptive.

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